Bah Humbug!…. ooorrrr not…

OK, so i am not a huge fan of X Mas, and even less so the older I get. This year would be my first year as Melanie to family… other than the people I live with. I mean I guess they know, or rather knew (via someone i am NOT related to opening his big stupid mouth. when he had no right to), but none of them have seen me. Anyway, i have been stressing about this visit for sometime, and even had a nightmare about it going horribly wrong. I was freaking out! I woke up today REALLY not wanting to go, for fear of rejection which my (always) level-headed wife said was not going to be there. I usually trust her, but this time I could not shake the feeling things were going to be uncomfortable in the very least, down right bad or worse (in the very worse). So, we were driving out there my wonderful wife was trying to be silly, and lighten my very dark mood. I kept telling her before we left; “I don’t want to go, i don’t want to go”, but for her, I relented and we went. It was raining, trying to destroy any possible good mood i could slip into, but my wife wouldn’t let that happen.

We arrived at her brother’s house, and boy was I nervous! I just wanted to scream and run away. We went in, I got hellos (using the right name), and hugs. So far so good. We played pictionary, and ate, and watched the kids open gifts. I had not any sense of ridicule or disdain. I was pleasantly surprised. All in all I had a great time! miss my folks like crazy, but this was great! As we were getting ready to leave I wanted to get our hosts (brother and sister-in-law) and thanks them personally for their acceptance. I asked my wife if they thought that would be weird, and she said no. So, we tracked down her brother, and then the three of us tracked down his wife and pulled them aside. (hormones took over) I couldn’t express my thanks the way i wanted, i started tearing up and just eeked out a thank you, and a big hugs. We all walked out to the garage and from there our car, but we stopped to thank them again, and wife told them up til this morning i wasn’t going to go. She turned and smiled at me, and the other two did as well, and I started to cry, I turned away, which got giggles. She said goodbye to them and we headed to the car. I got in and almost lost it. i was so thrilled by the love and acceptance I was show, and this will be locked in my memory for years to come. This was huge for me, and I could never thank them enough!

Needless to say, normally I would end any blog entry around X Mas with a “BAH HUMBUG!”. but this time, it’s Merry X Mas! I hope everyone who visits and reads this blog has a safe, and happy holiday season, and a wonderful new year.

GAWD! what a softy I have become! 😉



  1. That wife of yours knows what she’s doing, I’m so glad you trusted her. She won’t ever let you down Mel, this has been a huge transition for her as well, and it sounds to me like she just wouldn’t ever let you get hurt. I just can’t imagine she’d ever stand for something like that! Let’s face, not even a quarter of the wives in this world would be near as supportive as your wife is, I honestly can’t even say I would be as supportive to my spouse if he needed to make the changes that you have made (probably would, but you never know!). I admire you both.

    On that note, I’m excited to read that your holidays were blessed with happiness. You both deserve that, two great women, making fabulous choices in life, deserve nothing but the best. Cheers!

    • Ya, I kept saying… “Well, what if there are whispers, or comments from the next room?” And she always replied… “Do you REALLY think i would sit by and let that happen?!” As I have said numerous times before, she is super protective of me, and would not tolerate anyone belittling or ripping me. She’s a keeper ;p

      I hope your holidays were/are awesome!

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